12 Weeks Post-Op: The conversation no one wants to have (but everyone thinks about).

Published about 1 month ago • 1 min read

Let’s talk about the goal: The 12-week milestone.

This is usually when you’re cleared to explore sexual activity. But it’s important to set a reality check first. Sensation takes a long time to travel down those new nerves. At 12 weeks, you might not feel much in your penis itself, and that’s completely normal. The Tactical Approach:

Support: Since the ED (Erection Device) isn't placed yet, you can use the Coban wrap + condom method, use penis sleeves(there are several on the market), and devices like "The Elator".
The "Dual Stim" Method: If you can’t achieve an orgasm with your penis alone, stimulate your natal anatomy at the same time. This helps your brain and nervous system "connect" with your new anatomy.

Patience is the most important part of erotic recovery. Communicate with your partner and keep your eye on the prize.

Stay Steady,

Brett Lighthouse Transitions

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