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Managing the "In-Between" Anatomy.

Published 2 months ago • 1 min read

If your surgeon splits phalloplasty into stages, you’ll likely spend a few months with both your new penis and your natal anatomy.

This can be an incredibly distressing time. Your natal anatomy will look different. There might be an "exit hole" near your natal anatomy for your new urethra and/or stitches where a nerve was taken. It's common to feel distressed over this.

How to stay grounded:

  • Validate the feeling: It is okay to feel relief and distress at the same time.
  • Stay Busy: We often hyper focus on things when we sit still.
  • Eye on the Prize: These changes are temporary. It is done to avoid complications and to ensure a successful Stage 2.

You aren't alone in this feeling. My goal with these weekly emails is to build a space where we can talk about these gaps in the process openly. Eventually, I’ll be opening up a dedicated space for "The Crew" to connect and support each other in real-time, but for now, know that having these questions is a normal part of the journey.

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Stay Steady,

Brett Lighthouse Transitions

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