"Is this normal?" — How to handle Stage 1 setbacks.

Published 3 months ago • 1 min read

Complications are the single biggest source of anxiety in phalloplasty. But here is the truth: Most complications are manageable if you catch them early.

What if a complication didn't mean failure, but just a pivot in your care?

The most common hurdle is wound separation, especially under the penis. It’s usually caused by moisture or propping the penis too high, which pulls on delicate new skin.

The Red Flags: Spreading redness, foul odors, or fever.
The "Gross But Normal": Slough.
The Fix: Keeping the area dry, using Medihoney if directed, and strictly sticking to your activity restrictions.

You aren't "bad" at healing if you have a complication. You just need to stay in close contact with your surgical team and follow the protocol.

Stay Steady,

Brett Lighthouse Transitions

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